You just started dating this Virgo guy, or maybe you’ve been talking for a bit, but now you’re starting to like him and you want to know what gets him going or what he wants to hear. Virgo guys can be picky, so you want to make sure he knows you really understand him.
As an earth sign known for being particular, he needs to hear certain things to know you really get him. And it’s not always easy to get where they’re coming from. But I’ve learned a few things over the years dealing with these Virgo types.
Key Takeaways
- Virgos really value logic and intelligence, so you want to let him know how smart he is. Things like “I really appreciate how thoughtful you are” or “I love your mindset” will go far.
- They also really care about order and cleanliness. Instead of just talking about looks, point out how organized his place is or how tidy his car is. He’ll appreciate that you notice the details.
- Since he’s an earth sign, reassure him that you two make a great match. If you talk, don’t leave him hanging for hours before replying. Give him reassurance that he can count on you.
- If you did something that might upset him, you should be straight up about it. Your Virgo man wants to hear the honest truth, even if it is going to hurt for both of you.
- And watch the language – keep it polite. Sure, he likes a sense of humor, but rude or vulgar phrases aren’t what he’s looking for from a partner.
A Look “Under His Skin”
To win a Virgo man’s heart, you need to understand what makes him tick. Virgo men are all about logic, being practical, and having systems for everything. They treat relationships just like other parts of their life – with care, planning, and always thinking things through. Whether it’s work or romance, it has be perfect or nothing – no middle ground or maybes for Virgos.
Virgos are big on being precise, organized, clean, and modest. So instead of just complimenting his looks, you should point out things that show what his sign is about.
Did you check out his place? Mention if you dig the decor or style. Out on a date? Say you like his cologne or suit. Most importantly, try to keep it a little formal even if you’ve known them for months or years. Use words that aren’t childish, rude, or slang.
Compliment His Intelligence
If you’re interested in a Virgo man, you’ll want to stroke his ego about how smart he is. Virgo men really pride themselves on being logical and intelligent. His ruling planet is Mercury, which is all about communication and thinking, so don’t forget to shower him with compliments about how brilliant his mind is.
Tell him you admire his ability to work through complicated problems in a really logical way. Say things like how impressive it is that he can see solutions where others get stumped.
Also, comment on how he never seems to forget tiny details and can recall facts like nobody’s business. Let him know you really appreciate that super sharp memory of his.
Virgos are also great at breaking down complex ideas into simple terms that are easy to grasp. Give him props for how well he can clarify things and share knowledge in a straightforward manner. I know it may sound boring, but that’s what makes him feel good and what he wants to hear.

Compliment His Looks
Virgos can be really hard on themselves, always finding something to critique. But taking a sec to give them a nice compliment about how they look goes a long way. They pay attention to little details that others might not notice, so acknowledging those efforts means a lot. Try something like this:
- You look really dashing in that suit.
- That color blue is perfect on you. It brings out your eyes.
- Have you been working out? You seem more toned.
Don’t just limit it to appearances either. Virgos appreciate style and organization too. “Your place always looks so put together. Love your decorating.” Or “Way to go with that table setting – so thoughtful.” They also give bomb gift wraps.
They act humble, but the truth is Virgos love validation from their partner. Complimenting the little things he cares about shows you notice him for who he is.
Tell Him He’s Yours
Earth signs like stability, so it’s a good idea to have a chat and be clear about where you see things going. Tell him straight up that he’s your man and you want an exclusive thing. Make sure he knows you’re 100% committed to taking this to the next level.
Drop some hints like “You’re the only one for me” to let him know you’re really into him. Virgos love feeling desired, so play up how into him you are. Reassure him that he’s your top priority and you want to build a future together. Earth signs need reliability, so he’ll want to hear that he can feel secure and stable with you.
You can also say something like “You’re mine and I’m yours” to help him feel secure. Let him know he’s your number one. Make it clear as day that you only want him by being direct. Leave no room for confusion that you want this to be a committed, monogamous relationship.
Once he sees you’re for real about commitment, he’ll start to open up more emotionally. He’ll ramp up the affection and go out of his way to make you smile. Virgos are super devoted partners when they feel stable and safe. Speak from the heart so he knows you’re being genuine. Your Virgo man will appreciate the sincerity and it will bring you even closer.
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