You’ve heard the joke – what does a lesbian bring on a second date? A U-Haul! This stereotype about lesbians moving in together quickly refers to ‘U-Haul lesbians.’ But is it just a silly stereotype, or does it reflect reality? In this article, we’ll explore whether ‘U-Haul lesbians’ are fact or fiction.
The Origins And Meaning of “U-Haul Lesbian”
The phrase “U-Haul lesbian” refers to the stereotype that lesbians move in together very quickly after meeting or starting a new relationship. We’re talking weeks or two or three months after they first meet. It originated in the 1970s, implying that lesbians bring a U-Haul truck to a second date to move in together right away.
In some cases, it is true that same-sex female couples do tend to move in together faster on average, but the notion of “U-Haul lesbians” is, in my opinion, an overgeneralization. Just like not all women who don’t wear skirts or dresses are necessarily gay, not every lesbian relationship moves at lightspeed.
From what I’ve seen of lesbian couples I know, I can’t think of any that jumped straight to living together so fast. So, I don’t think U-Hauling is as common as some people think. It’s probably an overblown stereotype.
Why Would Someone U-Haul?
There can be a lot of reasons why someone might move in together really fast, no matter who they’re into. It could be something personal for them or just because they’re really into the other person. Love makes people do crazy things!
Obsession: Love and attraction can run very deep between two women in the early stages of a relationship. Without the stereotypical gender roles and scripts that often govern heterosexual relationships, lesbian partners can form an intense emotional connection quickly. This strong bond may make moving in together seem like a natural next step.
First “true love”: For many lesbians, their first same-sex relationship comes later in life after dating men. The excitement of a first “true love” can push couples to move in together before they are ready.
Desire to be “out”: For some female gay couples, living together is seen as a public symbol of their relationship status. The need to be “out and proud” may cause them to rush moving in together.
“U-Hauling” Is Not A Gay Thing
The U-Hauling stereotype is really not unique to same-sex couples. Plenty of straight partners, especially younger ones, make the decision to cohabitate soon after their first kiss.
When you fall in love, the logic goes out the window a lot of the time, and that strong desire to wake up next to each other every day is the same whether you’re gay or straight. Your heart wants what it wants, and logic doesn’t mean anything, as they say.
Both lesbians and straight couples might feel pressure to do what most relationships do and live together after dating for a while. But rushing into living together can cover up problems or differences that are better worked out separately first.
Sharing a home also means dividing up chores, money, habits, and family – things that can be hard even for couples who’ve been together a long time. So if a lesbian couple moves in together really fast, within a few weeks or two months, they’re probably doing it because they’re crazy about each other or think they’ve found “the one.” But is it a good idea? I don’t think so unless one of them really needs a new place to live.
What do you think about all that? Do you think you’d pack up the moving truck already? Let’s discuss this on X!
