You’ve got Lilith in Gemini, and you’re wondering what that means for your healing journey. I feel you. As someone with the same placement, I’ve walked that rocky road. The healing path won’t always be smooth sailing but you’ve got the insight and inner work to guide the way.
Lilith In Gemini
Lilith has a profound meaning in astrology and represents independence, rebellion, and darkness. Lilith is known as the Dark Moon or Dark Goddess and refers to a part of ourselves that seeks liberation from constraints and oppression.
With Lilith in Gemini, you tend to be a nonconforming communicator. It can be hard for you to say what you really mean. Even when you do talk, you may feel like you didn’t get your point across right. Sometimes, you just keep your thoughts to yourself because people don’t understand you or you don’t want to deal with explaining it.
Gemini is also about having two sides, so with Lilith there, you’re always battling your own duality. You might act one way but be totally different inside. Or you’ll behave differently depending on who you’re with, just so they accept you.
It’s also common for people with this placement to be really interested in people who are like their “double” – someone who fascinates them in a mirror-image kind of way. You also tend to question who you are a lot.
Communication
When you have Black Moon Lilith in Gemini, communication can become a big theme for healing. Gemini rules the mind, ideas, and speech, so holding things in is usually at the root of this placement.
Start by speaking your truth, even if it feels weird at first. Say the things you’ve been keeping to yourself for so long – whether that’s to a friend, family, or in a journal. If you had trouble speaking up as a kid, where someone discouraged you, now’s the time to find your voice.
Writing in a journal can do wonders, too. Just let your thoughts flow on the page without judging. Putting words to your experiences brings clarity that can release stuck energy and give you new perspective.
Also, reach out to close friends and confide in them about what’s really going on inside. True intimacy means open communication, so don’t hold back ’cause you’re worried about being a burden. They probably want to support you but won’t know how unless you speak up.
You may also want to check out a writing or speaking workshop where you can practice self-expression in a safe space. Being with others on a similar healing path can motivate you to open up more.
The key thing is to start small. Just say or write one real thing you’ve been holding in, and go from there. Healing suppressed communication doesn’t happen overnight, but every word you share from the heart is a step in the right direction.
Be Yourself
You likely find yourself adapting to different situations and people by taking on different personalities. You may feel the need to fit in wherever you go by mirroring others and changing to suit your surroundings.
To heal this aspect, one of the most important things is learning to be yourself in any situation, not what others expect of you. You don’t have to change yourself to fit in. Instead of having thousands of different personalities, the goal is to merge all your qualities into one authentic self that you bring with you everywhere.
Think about what really matters to you and the things that make you, well, you! Get comfortable showing that true self in any situation, even if it’s weird at first. People will see how real you keep it.
The more you can genuinely be yourself no matter what, the less you’ll feel like you have to adapt so much. For instance, if you go to a music festival, don’t change your look or how you act just to fit in. Wear what you like, act how you want. Don’t try to morph into the event – be you.
Give Yourself Permission To Be Human
Don’t be so hard on yourself. Black Moon Lilith in Gemini means you likely struggle with self-identity and feeling comfortable in your own skin. You worry about how others see you and label you.
Giving yourself permission to be you starts with accepting yourself, flaws and all. Look in the mirror and say “I accept myself, flaws and all.” Practice being nice to the parts of you that make you anxious. We all have things we’d change but that doesn’t mean you’re not great the way you are.
And if you’re not sure about your sexuality, that’s totally fine. Sexuality is like a sliding scale and you don’t need to figure it all out right away. Focus on what makes you happy and feel whole. Stop trying to squeeze yourself into boxes and labels. You’re a person first, the rest is details.
Also, if someone specific fascinates you but it makes you feel less than them, start seeing them as a regular person instead of putting them on a pedestal. We’re all human at the end of the day.
