If you’re reading this, you’ve got your eye on that Virgo in your friend circle and are thinking about taking things to the next level. Their perfectionism is intriguing, and that critical eye seems to see right through you. But before you jump in, you should know what you’re in for with a Virgo woman. They’re a different kind of person than most – she’s probably like no one you’ve dated before.
They Are Extremely Critical And Picky
Virgo women don’t settle for less than perfect – and that includes you. They’ll analyze you from head to toe, taking in all your little habits and hobbies. Nothing gets past those keen eyes of theirs, so be ready for a lot of questions, observations, and unsolicited advice.
When I say “perfect,” I don’t just mean how you look. Some Virgos care more about your brain, others want a handsome man or someone with money. The key is figuring out what really gets her motor running and trying to excel at it while still being yourself.
Does cleanliness and order seem important to her? Try and be good at keeping tidy but don’t go overboard. Or is she into men with stability? Show her she can feel safe with you.
Predictability
Virgo women definitely like to have a sense of structure and stability. Surprises aren’t really their thing since they tend to worry about the unknown. If you’re dating a Virgo girl, she’ll appreciate it if you can give her a general idea of what to expect each day. Things like confirming plans for the evening or letting her know if you need to cancel will help ease her mind. Last-minute changes to the schedule are likely to make her feel anxious.
She also doesn’t love too much spontaneity. Yes, adventures can be fun, but Virgo prefers having time to prepare mentally and logistically. Popping up at her doorstep unannounced may come across as inconsiderate of her needs. The same goes for trips – giving her the hotel details well in advance allows her nerves to settle.
If you’re someone who thrives on surprises and last-minute decisions, dating a Virgo woman may lead to frustration down the line. Over time, her worries and your freewheeling spirit are likely to cause tension. She’ll start to feel like she can never relax or that you don’t respect her emotional needs.
Her Texting Style
When it comes to texting a Virgo woman, you have to lay off the clinginess. They hate it when you’re constantly blowing up their phone, expecting an instant reply. Virgos are big-time overthinkers – she needs time to craft the perfect response.
Even when she reads your text right away on the screen, she’ll likely leave you on read so she can analyze it all. She’s thinking through exactly what to say. Don’t expect a quick reply, either. It could be minutes, hours, or even days, depending on her mood and how much thinking it through she needs to do.
I know Mercury (the planet of communication) is their ruling planet, but with that Earth sign element, they have to make every text perfect. So, if slow or dry replies aren’t your thing, she isn’t the right woman for you.
She’s Inflexible And Stubborn
Virgos really like having everything in its proper place and following the rules. Their need for perfection and structure can make them seem a bit uptight sometimes. And once they have a routine going, they don’t like it when things change for them.
They’re like cats in that way. For instance, if you start feeding your cat at 5 pm every day, you better keep doing it at that time. The same goes for Virgos. Make any adjustments to the schedule, and they’ll disappear or run away.
It’s also very hard to change their mind once they’ve made it up about something. Their earth sign energy makes them as stubborn as mules. So, if you’re dating a Virgo, be ready for some power struggles. She won’t just do what you say automatically.
And if you disagree with her on something, that’s fine but don’t try and change her viewpoint. Don’t even try convincing a carnivore Virgo to go vegetarian or vegan. At home, you’re both the boss, not just you. You’ll have to accept that or it won’t work out between you.
Workaholic
The astrological virgins are big workaholics. They live by the motto “If I can do something today, I’m going to do it.” And again, Virgos are an earth sign so they really need that stability and solid foundation underneath them. If they had the chance to take on three jobs so they could buy a house in 5 years, they’d be all over it.
Once she sets her mind to a goal, she really goes after it no matter what. And if you’re thinking about dating one, be prepared that work will come before you. She does value relationships, too. But how can she be happy in a relationship if she doesn’t have that solid ground under her feet or money in the bank? That’s just kind of her philosophy whether you agree with it or not.
My Advice
If you really love your Virgo partner and want the relationship to go smoothly, here’s something important to keep in mind:
- Don’t smother her or be clingy.
- Whatever you do, don’t try to change her or how she thinks. She’s stubborn, and trying to change her is just asking for trouble.
- Don’t take it personally is she is putting her job ahead of plans with you. She just wants to stay employed, so you both can have security. She still cares about you, but sometimes, responsibilities come first.
- Most importantly, be consistent. Surprises and randomness will give her hives. In fact, not knowing what to expect is her biggest fear.
