I know exactly how you feel. You’ve got this one person who’s just constantly on your mind, even though you’re just not that into them. Maybe they aren’t really your type, or you don’t find them all that attractive physically or personality-wise.
But why can’t you stop thinking about someone you’re not even feeling? Let me tell you, I’ve been there, too, and I think I know what’s going on in your head. Here’s what I’ve learned about why our brains can act like this sometimes.
Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Someone You Don’t Like
Even if there’s someone you just can’t stand, you’ll probably still find yourself thinking about them a lot. It’s because your brain just loves what’s familiar, even if it’s not really a good thing. It would rather focus on what it already knows than try to figure something new out. So even the people you dislike are kind of comfortable for your brain in a way.
It’s like your brain knows them, so it brings them up, even if you wish it wouldn’t! It’s all because we’re constantly seeing the same people over and over, whether in real life or just on social media. So your brain gets used to them being around and will think of them even when you’d rather not.
Unfinished Business
More often than not, if someone keeps popping into your head even when you wish they wouldn’t, it’s because you never really tied up loose ends. Maybe you used to get along with this person at some point, or they did something that still bugs you deep down.
Your subconscious tends to hold onto that stuff whether you want it to or not. So it’ll drag up memories of the person without you even meaning for it to. Even if on the surface you want nothing to do with them, something on the inside feels unfinished.
It Feeds Your Ego
As much as you dislike this person, thinking about them feeds your ego. It makes you feel superior by comparison or fuels feelings of being wronged. Your ego thrives on the drama and negative emotions.
Maybe they screwed up at some point but thinking about them all the time is just feeding your ego now. It’s like you’re getting back at them in your head. You’re just fueling those feelings by imagining them or having them on your mind often.
They’re Your Twin Flame
From a spiritual perspective, it’s possible that person you can’t stop thinking about could be your twin flame. As I’m sure you know or maybe don’t know, twin flames are basically two halves of the same soul. At some point in life, they come together to reunite that soul.
Your twin flame could definitely be a romantic partner, but it doesn’t necessarily have to be – twin flames can also just be really good friends. So if there’s someone you find yourself thinking about all the time, even though you’re not interested in them that way, there’s a good chance they might be your twin flame.
How To Stop Thinking About Them
For those of you into spirituality, if it were me, I’d be open to the idea that this person could be my twin flame. Even if you don’t have feelings for them, unless they did something wrong to you, I don’t see any reason why you shouldn’t reach out and see if you sense some kind of spiritual connection.
However, if this is someone who did you wrong or someone you used to like but don’t anymore, there’s probably unfinished business there. If you’re still in contact with them, have a talk and get what needs to be said off your chest. If it’s an apology, apologize to them. But if they’re the one who did something to hurt you, try to cut out anything that reminds you of them.
You know what they say, “out of sight, out of mind.” Unfollow them on social media, get rid of photos with them, or avoid places you know they frequent.
