Have you ever held onto anger so tightly that it felt like carrying a backpack full of bricks everywhere you went? I have. And let me tell you, forgiveness wasn’t about letting the other person off the hook—it was about finally setting that heavy bag down.
Karma, that cosmic rule of cause and effect, doesn’t work the way we sometimes hope. We want instant justice, a dramatic “gotcha!” moment where the universe serves revenge on a silver platter. But karma isn’t about punishment—it’s about balance. And sometimes, the way to restore that balance isn’t by clinging to resentment but by releasing it.
Forgiveness Is For You, Not Them
Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting what happened or pretending it didn’t hurt. It doesn’t mean you have to trust that person again, give them another chance, or even keep them in your life. True forgiveness is simply deciding that their actions no longer get to control your peace. It’s saying, “What you did mattered, but I won’t let it define me anymore.”
For years, I held onto anger like a security blanket, thinking that my bitterness was somehow punishing the people who hurt me. I carried this weight, replaying their betrayals in my mind, waiting for an apology that never came. Five long years of sleepless nights, clenched jaws, and wasted energy—all while they moved on, unaffected.
I used to believe that if I held on long enough, karma would strike in some dramatic, cinematic way—that they’d finally “get what they deserved.” But holding a grudge is like swallowing bitter medicine while hoping they choke on it. While I was drowning in resentment, they weren’t even thinking about me.
Then one day, I made a choice—not for them, but for me. I forgave them silently, without their apology, without their awareness. And something strange happened: I felt lighter, as if I had finally put down a burden I didn’t realize I was carrying.
Even funnier? Around that same time, I found out that life had already been dealing with them in its own way. Struggles, setbacks, lessons—none of my making, yet perfectly timed. Maybe it was karma doing her subtle work, or perhaps Saturn’s heavy transits (because when that ringed planet comes knocking, everyone gets their report card). Either way, it proved what I’d always sensed but resisted believing: the universe doesn’t need my rage as fuel to deliver justice.
You don’t have to forget. You don’t have to pretend it didn’t hurt. But when you release the grip of resentment and forgive those who hurt you, you reclaim your power. And sometimes, the sweetest revenge is living so well that the past can’t touch you anymore.
Karma Handles The Rest
Some people resist forgiveness because it feels like letting the other person “get away with it.” We cling to anger, believing our resentment is the only thing holding them accountable. But karma doesn’t need your bitterness to balance the scales.
The universe operates in its own rhythm. If someone caused harm, their actions carry their own weight—lessons will come, consequences will unfold, and life has a way of ensuring everyone faces the echoes of what they’ve put out. But none of that requires your suffering to happen. In fact, the more you hold on, the longer you stay tied to their energy, like an invisible cord connecting only the two of you.
Imagine that anger is a tether binding you to the person who hurt you. As long as you grip that resentment, you’re still energetically linked, still giving them power over your emotions. But the moment you forgive—truly forgive—you sever that cord.
And here’s the beautiful part: once you’re no longer tangled in that toxic connection, karma can finally do its job uninterrupted. You’re no longer blocking the flow with your own unresolved pain. The universe doesn’t need your permission to deliver justice—it just needs you to get out of the way.
By releasing the anger, you’re not excusing what they did. You’re simply refusing to let their actions keep you stuck in the past. The energy you once spent on resentment now becomes fuel for your own healing, growth, and new blessings.
So if you’re waiting for karma to strike, remember: the most powerful thing you can do is drop the rope. Walk away, cut the cord, and trust that life handles the rest. Because the best revenge? It’s not hatred—it’s your freedom.
My Advice
Forgiving someone who hurt you deeply isn’t weakness—it’s the bravest act of self-liberation. So if bitterness still lingers in your hands today, ask yourself: Is this anger protecting me—or poisoning me?
You don’t have to forget. You don’t have to condone. And you certainly don’t owe anyone a seat at your table. But you do deserve to walk forward unshackled.
Karma doesn’t need your suffering to balance the scales. When you forgive, you’re not erasing their actions—you’re clearing the path for the universe to handle what’s theirs to carry. Peace becomes your victory, while life ensures they meet their own lessons.
Forgiveness isn’t about them. It’s the moment you untie your hands so karma can finally tie up loose ends.
