So, your mom is a Virgo. That explains a lot, doesn’t it? As the zodiac’s perfectionist, your Virgo mom has probably spent your whole life organizing, criticizing, and micromanaging you to the point of madness.
She means well, of course, her heart is in the right place. But that Virgo’s tendency to constantly point out your flaws and shortcomings in her quest to help you reach your ‘full potential’ can be more than any child should have to bear. Not to mention her obsession with tidiness, routine, and order that makes any deviation from her carefully crafted schedule feel like a personal attack!
Yes, Virgo moms have the best of intentions, but sometimes you just need to escape the constant judgment and unsolicited advice. If this sounds familiar, you have my deepest sympathies.
They Are Extremely Critical
Virgo mothers just can’t help themselves. Their perfectionism translates into a constant barrage of criticism that can really do a number on you.
As a kid, your room was never clean enough. Your grades were never high enough. And don’t even get us started on how you dressed! Virgo moms nitpick every little detail and make you feel like you can never measure up to their impossibly high standards.
The worst part is, their criticism comes from a place of caring. Virgo mothers just want the best for their kids and think that by pointing out your faults and flaws, they’re helping you become a better person. But there’s a fine line between caring feedback and hurtful criticism, and Virgo moms often cross it without realizing the damage they’re doing.
Hard Time Letting Go
Virgos have trouble letting go of control. They have a hard time accepting that their kids are growing up and want to make their own choices. They’ll keep trying to micromanage your life well into adulthood.
Their need to control can be suffocating at times. But, if you have a Virgo mom, make sure to remind her that you have your own life to live – before her criticism and meddling drive you completely crazy!
They Are Overbearing And Controlling
Your Virgo mom probably monitored your every move as a child. She had to know where you were at all times and kept a tight rein on your social life. Even as an adult, she still checks in constantly and wants to control small details of your life from afar.
Lists of chores, curfews, and rules were commonplace in your Virgo mom’s household. She believed that discipline and rigid structure were the keys to success. While her intentions were good, her perfectionism and need to impose order often backfired.
Don’t get upset if your Virgo mom criticizes you or voices her disappointment in your choices. She can’t turn off that hyper-critical inner voice, and she sees it as her duty to “help you improve.”
Lack of Emotional Expression
Virgo mothers tend to be more practical and less emotive. They may struggle to say “I love you” frequently and have trouble giving hugs, kisses, and other physical signs of affection.
For Virgo mothers, actions speak louder than words. They show they care by constantly doing things for you, like cooking your favorite meals, helping you with chores and homework, and giving you practical gifts. Even though they aren’t overly affectionate, their actions demonstrate how much they love you.
While Virgos deeply care for their children, their perfectionism and tendency to criticize can sometimes make their kids feel like they aren’t good enough. For sensitive children, the constant criticism may feel like a lack of affection or approval.
Virgo mothers want the very best for their children so they can achieve their full potential. But their perfectionism needs to be balanced with empathy, compassion, and verbal affirmations of their affection and approval.
Though not overly emotive, Virgo mothers love their children deeply. With more open expressions of affection, their caring nature will shine through.
Their High Expectations
As the child of a Virgo mother, you were likely held to extremely high standards from an early age. Virgo moms expect nothing less than perfection and excellence in everything you do.
Meeting her lofty expectations is nearly impossible. She nitpicks and criticizes even your smallest mistakes and imperfections. Her harsh words can damage your self-esteem and confidence over time. She means well and just wants you to reach your full potential, but her approach leaves much to be desired.
Your Virgo mom also had a strict set of rules you were expected to follow. She kept a tight schedule and didn’t tolerate deviations. Flexibility and spontaneity were not her strong suits. She believed in discipline and order above all else.
While her high standards and rigid rules were suffocating, you have to admit they instilled a strong work ethic and sense of responsibility in you. You learned skills like organization, time management, and efficiency that serve you well as an adult. Your mom’s perfectionism, though overbearing, has made you strive to do your best in all areas of life.
Her nagging and criticism came from a place of love, even if it didn’t always feel that way. Your Virgo mother wanted the absolute best for you and pushed you to achieve more than you ever thought possible.
She’s Not The Worst, Trust Me
Their perfectionism, criticism, and nagging may drive you up the wall at times but try to remember that it all comes from a place of love and wanting the best for you. Though their methods may be questionable, their intentions are good. In fact, more than good.
If you find yourself locked in a battle of wills with your Virgo mom, take a deep breath and try to understand things from her perspective. Compromise when you can and stand up for yourself when you must. And give her an extra hug – though she may not always show it, you’re the apple of her eye.