Have you ever been told that you are too demanding or have too high standards? Don’t take it personally. In fact, it is healthy to set your own standards and live by them.
People usually talk about high standards when it comes to love and relationships. You’ve been single for a long time and you’re starting to lose hope that you will never meet the person you dream of. People around you tell you that you’re too demanding and want something you’re never gonna have and advise you to lower your standards just to increase your chances of meeting someone.
Frankly, it’s one of the worst advices you can ever get.
The first reaction of many people will be considering whether their standards aren’t really high, and some of them will begin to accept that they will never have what they desire and start lowering their standards.
If you’re in a similar situation, stop thinking about how high your standards are and let’s take a look at several reasons why you should never ever lower them again!
Believe you can and you will
Albert Einstein said: “Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way.”
By lowering your standards, you lower your vibration as well. And as you may well know, like attracts like. If you lower your standards, you begin to draw things into your life that are at the level of this standard, and you have no choice but to settle for something that vibrates at a much lower level than yours.
Not only should you never lower your standards, but you shouldn’t settle for less or something you’re not happy with.
Keep your standards as high as they are right at this moment and believe you can! Have a strong and unwavering faith so that lowering your standards and settling for less never crosses your mind again.
There’s a reward in waiting
Not seeing any results doesn’t mean they never come. Give it time because there’s a reward in waiting. Enjoy the journey towards your goal instead of focusing on the outcome and trust the process.
Lowering your standards just to get faster somewhere is not a solution because you will reach a different destination and achieve different results. And that’s what you don’t want, right?
Have patience and strong will, and don’t identify yourself with the idea that by lowering standards you’ll get something faster or easier. This way, you only get the opposite of what you want.
Other people’s opinions don’t define you
One of my friends practiced the Law of Attraction and dreamed of earning $4,000 a month. He loved traveling and believed that higher earnings would allow him to travel more, so that he could do what was his greatest passion.
People around him often told him that he could be happy with how much he was earning and compared him to a dreamy child rather than an adult with ambition and vision. Once he literally told me that he felt as if people were “sucking” him down to their level as a vacuum cleaner and that he was thinking that his long-term goal would not be fulfilled, so he would stop dreaming, visualizing and believing that he would achieve his financial and personal freedom.
I advised him not to listen to other people’s opinions because they were obviously living by their own standards that are different from his own, and I told him to continue doing what he was doing. He left his standards as they were before, and over time he began to meet people on the same vibration wave living by the same standards and started earning his desired amount of money.
If someone tells you that you have too high standards, don’t allow yourself to be influenced by social stereotypes and do not lower your standards in any way just to live by the same standards as other people. Lowering your standards is not really the solution. Know what you want, make sure you know what’s your greatest desire and goal to achieve, and go for it no matter what!
The power of knowing what you want
When I first heard “act as if it already happened”, I was horrified because I thought that if I wanted to become rich, I must start spending large sums of money. The Law of Attraction says that like attracts like, and acting as if it already happened is a great tool to achieve your goal.
When I finally understood the principle of this technique, I began to apply it to my life and everything started to change for the better. It’s not about spending large sums of money to make you feel rich and then eventually become rich, rather than adapting that feeling of being already rich.
And so I did. I went to places where rich people went to appropriate the feeling of wealth, and although I ordered the cheapest drinks and meals, I felt the vibration.
One day I asked my friend to come with me. “Are you crazy? This place is not for us. Lower your standards, girl, you’re flying too high!” she said. “Nope! We don’t have to spend a lot of money there, I just want to be in that environment and feel that vibe!” I replied.
None of my friends I asked came with me to the club, even though we wouldn’t spend there more money than anywhere else. They told me to lower my standards and some of them even started avoiding me because they thought that if I wanted more and I had a goal and a vision which they didn’t.
Do what you love and what fulfills your soul. Know what you want to achieve and go for it. Don’t lower your standards just to match other people’s standards or expectations. Don’t lower your standards just because you are lonely or dating doesn’t work for you at this moment. Don’t lower your standards for anyone and anything.