Being ghosted by someone you cared about hurts like hell, doesn’t it? One day, they’re present, and things seem fine, the next, they’ve vanished without a trace. No explanation, no goodbye, just silence. You’re left confused, questioning what went wrong and whether the good times you shared even meant anything at all.
Getting ghosted really says more about the other person than it does about you. It’s a cowardly and chicken move, and you deserve so much better. But that doesn’t make it hurt any less. The only way to find closure is through forgiveness.
I know that forgiveness is probably the last thing you want to think about right now. Trust me, I’ve been where you are – it hurts too much even to consider. But you have to let that pain go if you ever want to move forward. Holding onto anger and resentment, it’ll just eat you up inside.
The World Does Not End
Being ghosted hurts, but don’t let it destroy you. This rejection says more about the other person than it does about you. Still, it’s normal to feel sad or confused.
Give yourself time to process the pain. Cry it out, journal your feelings, or talk to others. Bottling it up will only make you feel worse. Your pain has gotta go somewhere, so think of it like a pressure cooker – you need to let off that steam! So don’t bottle it up. Feel what you’re feeling, get it all out there however works for you. You’ll start to feel better once you do.
Don’t dwell on the why. You may never get closure or a satisfying explanation. As hard as it is, accept that and work on moving forward.
Now, forgive them. Holding onto resentment will only make you bitter. Forgive them in your own time, wish them well, then close that chapter of your life. Take your time or even do some ritual, such as writing them a letter and then burning it.
Don’t let this experience make you jaded. Not everyone out there is like that. Some people are selfish and rude. Have hope that you will find someone who will treat you well and communicate openly when needed. This person was your lesson and not meant to stay forever in your life.
Forgiveness Is For You, Not Them
When you forgive someone who hurt you, you’re doing it for yourself, not for them. They may not deserve forgiveness, but you deserve to feel good and move on. You deserve closure so you can turn the page and not let what they did keep dragging you down.
Accept What Happened
First, accept that this person chose to cut off contact with you abruptly. It’s not your fault. Some people are just incapable of communicating directly or ending a relationship in a mature, respectful way. The way some people act says more about them than it does about you. Maybe they got their own crap going on, or maybe they’re just plain rude and dumb. Don’t even worry about why they did it.
Don’t Dwell On The Why
Don’t waste time wondering why they did it or what you did wrong. You’ll never get a straight answer, and it won’t make you feel better. The reason doesn’t matter – what matters is how their actions made you feel and starting the process of healing.
Would you give a copy of your house keys to some random stranger on the street? Then why would you leave your emotional well-being in the hands of someone, whether it was your twin flame or friend, who didn’t even have the decency to be upfront with you when they lost interest? You deserve way better than that. It’s their lack of character, not anything about you.
Stop Reaching Out
As hard as it is, stop calling, texting, or stalking them on social media. This will only make you feel worse in the long run and prevent you from moving on. Remove them from your contacts and online profiles. Out of sight, out of mind.
Forgive Them In Your Own Way
When you’re ready, forgive them for your own peace of mind. But don’t feel obligated to tell them or maintain contact. Your forgiveness is for your own healing and closure. This is the final step to freeing yourself from their ghosting and taking back your power. Like I said, do some ritual or just forgive them silently in your mind.
You’ll Take Back Your Power
Holding onto negative feelings can weigh you down over time. But forgiveness doesn’t mean condoning their actions or acting like nothing happened. It simply means releasing the resentment and moving on.
When you forgive, you take back your power. You decide that you won’t let this person continue to control your emotions and thoughts. You are the director of your life, not them.
Forgiveness allows you to reclaim your inner peace and regain a sense of control over your own life. You’ll stop replaying the situation over and over in your mind, analyzing what went wrong. The mental and emotional space that person was occupying in your thoughts becomes free once more.
Consider letting go of any “should haves” or “could haves” regarding that person. Accept that you may never get an explanation or apology unless they have some emotions and respect. Focus on how you can move forward in a way that brings you more peace. Remind yourself of your own value and worthiness of healthy relationships.
With time and strong will, the hurt will fade. You’ll start to feel freer to open your heart again to people who truly value you. Forgiveness can be the first step toward healing and reconnecting with your own joy and inner light.
Forgive them.
You deserve to feel free and light.
