You’re really into this Cancer man, but lately, it seems like his feelings are all over the place. He’s texting you cute little poems, but after a day or two, he’s leaving you on read for days. What’s wrong with him?
As an ultra-sensitive water sign, Cancers tend to retreat into their shells when they’re feeling overwhelmed. But that doesn’t mean you have to put your love life on hold indefinitely. Some Cancers just need a little more breathing room when it gets intense, while others are really immature about it, constantly pulling away and then wanting your attention again. Here’s what to do in either case.
The Cancer Man’s Behavior
The Cancer man can be tough to figure out sometimes. On the one hand, he’s super emotional and sensitive. One minute, he’s all happy and positive, the next, he’s stressing about something that happened years ago like it was yesterday. And it’s not just little things from the past, I’m talking 5 or 10 years ago.
Cancers always seem to have one foot still stuck in memories from a long time ago. It’s like they’re living in both the present and the past at the same time their whole life.
- He’s sensitive and emotional. Cancer men feel deeply, so they may pull away when he’s feeling vulnerable. Give him space, and he’ll come back around.
- He values security. If he’s sending mixed signals, it could be because he’s feeling insecure about the relationship. Reassure him with kind words, affection, and quality time together.
- He moves slooowly. The Cancer man typically takes his time opening up and committing. Rather than pressuring him, appreciate the moments you do have together. His pace will quicken when he feels fully comfortable.
Like I was saying, he can be really hard to understand sometimes. But if you try out some of those tips I mentioned, or at the very least give him his space and remember that he moves real slow, it will hurt you none. All you’ll lose is a bit of time and energy.
Focus On Yourself And Don’t Give Him Much Attention
Don’t put your life on hold waiting for his calls or texts. Keep living your best life by pursuing your own interests and hobbies, spending time with supportive friends and family, and doing things that boost your confidence from within.
Instead of obsessing over his hot-and-cold behavior, spend time with friends, pursue your hobbies, and do things that make you happy. That’ll boost your confidence and help you see the bigger picture.
And if after you start focusing on yourself, he still doesn’t come around, then it’s a sign to just keep doing your thing. Clearly, he’s not that interested, so don’t waste your time waiting for him.
Be Direct
If you really want to know where you stand with your Cancer dude, you HAVE TO ask him straight up. You have nothing to lose by doing it. Cancers tend to avoid confrontation, so they may beat around the bush or give vague answers if you hint around the topic.
But what you can do is gently but honestly tell him how his mixed signals are making you feel, then ask him to clarify what he wants and is ready for in your relationship. Say something like:
“I’ve noticed some days you’re really into me, then other days you’re distant. I want to understand where we’re at. How do you truly feel about me and what we got going on?”
A direct and caring approach will make him feel respected and at ease opening up to you. Be prepared for either answer, stay calm and chill. If he admits he’s got doubts or feels unsure, suggest taking it slow so he can figure out what he really wants. If he says he wants to commit to you fully, that’s great – but watch his actions to make sure his signals stay clear and consistent going forward.
But remember: If, after trying, he keeps blowing hot and cold, you may need to decide if the uncertainty works for you. It is what it is!
Consider Letting Go
You’ve been trying everything you can to improve communication and set clear boundaries with your Cancer man, but you’re still getting mixed signals from him? Sounds like you’ve done all you can and nothing’s really changed.
I know it’s not easy, but staying in a situation where you constantly feel confused or unsure of where you stand is just going to end up hurting you more in the long run.
If the mixed signals have been going on for a while now and you find yourself constantly questioning where you two are at, it’s probably a sign that either you just aren’t compatible, or he’s just not ready for a serious relationship right now. In that case, the best thing for your well-being might be to start moving on. I know it’s tough, but you have to take care of yourself first here.
The Decision Is Up To You!
If that Cancer man of yours is sending all kinds of confusing vibes, the last thing you need is more stress. My advice? Give him a little room to breathe and focus on taking good care of yourself for a change. But if he’s still all over the place after a while, sayonara sucka! You’re too fabulous to waste your time waiting around for some man who can’t make up his mind. You’ve got way better things to do with your life than hope and pray he finally pulls his head out of the sand.
