You’re finally free – you broke up with your Cancer man, and now you need some distance. But letting go of his intense emotions and clinginess is easier said than done.
As a sensitive water sign, he’s not going to make this breakup easy for you. You need a game plan to keep him from sucking you back into his drama.
Why Distancing Yourself Is A Good Choice
Moving on from a breakup can be difficult, especially if you shared a deep connection with your ex. However, distancing yourself from a Cancer man after ending a romantic relationship can help you heal and regain your emotional balance.
Cancer is a sensitive and emotional sign, and Cancer men can sometimes be manipulative or play with your feelings to get what they want. After a breakup, a Cancer man may try to pull you back in by acting vulnerable or appealing to your nurturing side. Yes, this may seem harmless, but giving in can set you back on your path to moving on.
If you broke up with him because he was treating you badly, don’t get sucked back in if he comes crying and apologizing. Those types of men will promise they’ve changed but then go right back to the same old way of treating you before long. You made the choice to leave for a reason, so now you have to stick to it.
Here’s why distancing yourself is a good choice:
- If you dated a Cancer guy and broke things off, you have to be careful. Cancers can get really clingy once they’re attached to someone. If you let him stick around after the breakup, he’ll be on you like glue and never give you space. Once the relationship is over, there’s no need for him to still be hanging around you.
- Cancers can be super manipulative when it comes to relationships. If an ex comes back saying they’ve changed, I wouldn’t necessarily believe it right away. Real change takes a long time. It’s possible they’re just telling you what you want to hear to get back together. I’d be careful and not jump in too fast if I were you.
- Cancers can definitely be dramatic and emotional. Once you put some space between you and a Cancerian, you save yourself from a lot of energy-draining drama. Stepping back is probably the move.
Set Clear Boundaries After The Breakup
It is natural to want to stay connected to your ex, especially if there was a deep emotional bond. After all, Cancers are water signs that always leave a mark on you. But continuing to communicate or spend time together risks reopening old wounds and lingering hopes of rekindling the relationship. To truly distance yourself, you must set firm boundaries that define your new relationship as strictly platonic, if any.
You may miss your Cancer ex and the bond you shared, but reminding yourself that the relationship is over will strengthen your resolve to stick to the boundaries. With time and distance, those feelings will fade, and it will get easier to move on. But you must take that first step of creating space between you by setting clear boundaries after the breakup.
Limit Contact
Decide how much contact, if any, you are comfortable with and stick to it. You may decide to go with no contact at all for a period of time. Or you could agree to only communicate through email about important matters. The important thing is setting a limit and sticking to it.
Delete and block his number so you’re not tempted to text or call. Remove him on social media, too. This will help create distance. If you have mutual friends, try to avoid group activities where you might run into him, at least at first.
Make sure to spend time with other people in your life who care about you, too. And if running into him is unavoidable, keep it quick and polite. Don’t get sucked into long talks, set clear boundaries for yourself.
Avoid Places That Remind You of Him
When you were with your ex, there were likely places you frequented together that hold memories – restaurants you enjoyed, parks you walked through, coffee shops you studied at.
Initially, steering clear of these spots can help minimize feelings of sadness, longing, or regret that can surface when you see them. Over time, as you continue to heal and grow, you may be able to revisit these places without as much emotional impact.
In the beginning, however, try to switch up your normal routine and habits. Explore new restaurants and find different places to walk or study. Take a different route to school or work. The more you can avoid places that remind you of your ex and your relationship, the easier it will be to start moving forward in your life without him.
Look To The Future
Think about your goals, dreams, and aspirations that you may have put aside during the relationship. Reconnect with these visions and make plans to achieve them. Visualize the life you want to create for yourself independent of your ex. Having goals and ambitions can give you motivation and purpose as you transition into this new chapter.
You should also spend time doing things you enjoy that help you feel like yourself again. Reconnect with hobbies you may have neglected, spend time with friends, try something new. As you nurture your independence and self-sufficiency, you will feel more confident and ready to move forward. Over time, you won’t even think about him.
