Alcohol problems are becoming more common these days and actually, we’re often fuelling each other’s problems as a couple.
So many of us enable our partner’s problematic relationship with alcohol and vice versa, with the best option being to give it up, together, as a couple.
Its strength in numbers and that can aid every step of the way, from the alcohol detox process to treatment and recovery for the rest of your lives. Of course, it isn’t easy but there are plenty of tips out there to help you get through the challenges together and build a platform for a better and healthier relationship.
Set Clear, Shared Goals
Before you set off on the journey to sobriety, it’s important to discuss why you want to give up alcohol. What are the reasons for it? Is it to improve your health? Perhaps arguments are becoming more regular as a result of alcohol? Maybe you’re looking to save money or even start a family.
Discuss the motivations and set clear, achievable goals based upon those. Discuss what you hope to achieve and how long you want to remain alcohol free. That may be permanently, it may be for a shorter period of time.
By going through this process, you’ll both get on the same page, which will allow you to tackle the process head on as a team.
Find New Social Activities
Naturally, you may turn to alcohol regularly as a social activity, whether it be going out to the pub or opening up a bottle of wine during the evening and settling down with TV or a film,
A good idea is during the process to find new social activities that don’t involve alcohol. There are plenty of options out there, from going for coffee instead to heading out on walks, exercising, learning new skills and more. By removing alcohol from such activities, you’ll make it easier to stay sober, while also finding new passions.
Keep Alcohol Out of the House
Again, at the start of the process it can be a good idea to remove all the alcohol from your house. This can significantly reduce temptation. After all, during moments of stress, it can be very easy to open the cabinet and find a bottle.
You might want to think about exploring non-alcoholic alternatives, for example many herbal teas are good for destressing, while there are plenty of 0% beers and wines around these days too.
Support Each Other Through Cravings
It’s fair to say you’ll support your partner in other areas of life, so getting the support of each other here is also hugely important.
Support groups often are the key element of successful recovery, so having each other to lean on is vital. Both of you will have moments of temptation, so if one of you is struggling, try to offer distractions, whether it be going for a walk, meditating, or even putting a film on to take the mind away from it. Reassure them and discuss your shared goals again to ensure your loved one stays motivated.
Celebrate Milestones Together
Giving up alcohol is a significant achievement, and it’s important to recognise and celebrate your progress as a couple. Set small, achievable milestones, such as one week, one month, or three months alcohol-free, and plan a special treat to mark each one. This could be a romantic dinner, a weekend getaway, or even just a relaxing night in with your favourite non-alcoholic drinks.
Celebrating these milestones not only provides a sense of accomplishment but also reinforces your commitment to staying alcohol-free. It’s a chance to reflect on how far you’ve come and to look forward to the continued benefits of your alcohol-free lifestyle.
