Have you ever left a conversation feeling completely drained, as if the other person took something from you? Not just your time or patience—but your actual energy. Maybe you’re stuck in a one-sided dynamic, always giving while they take. Or maybe you’re emotionally tied to someone who leaves you feeling hollow, like you’ve poured yourself into a cup with no bottom.
Energy isn’t just some mystical idea—it’s real. When you’re fixated on someone (whether you love them, resent them, or just can’t stop thinking about them), your energy lingers with them.
Imagine this: You’re a glass of water, and every thought, every unanswered text, every moment you spend waiting for them to reciprocate… is another drop spilled. Before you know it, you’re running on empty.
That’s when you have to ask yourself: Why am I letting them drink from my cup when they’re not even thirsty?
It’s time to pull your energy back. Here’s how.
1. Acknowledge That Your Energy Is Scattered
The first step to pulling your energy back from someone is awareness. If you constantly think about someone, replay conversations, or feel emotionally tied to them even when they’re not around, chances are your energy is lingering where it shouldn’t be. Ask yourself: Why does this person take up so much space in my mind?
2. Set Clear Boundaries (Yes, Even Energetically)
Boundaries aren’t just about saying “no”—they’re about guarding your peace. If someone leaves you feeling drained, you don’t owe them unlimited access to your energy. You don’t have to burn bridges (unless that’s what you need), but you do have to decide: How much of myself am I willing to lose here?
Small shifts make a big difference. If social media keeps you hooked on their every post, mute them. No dramatic unfollowing, no explanation—just quiet reclaiming of your attention. Out of sight doesn’t have to mean out of mind, but it’s a start.
3. Visualize Cutting The Cord
Visualization is POWERFUL. Imagine a cord connecting you to the person who’s draining you. See it clearly—maybe it’s thick and tangled, or thin but sticky. Now, in your mind, gently but firmly sever that cord. You can even say, “I reclaim my energy now.”
4. Redirect Your Focus
Your energy flows where your attention goes. The more you fixate on someone—wondering why they didn’t text, replaying conversations, or waiting for them to change—the more power you hand over. But here’s the secret: what you focus on grows.
So shift the spotlight. Pour that energy back into yourself—your dreams, your growth, the people who actually light you up. The less space they take up in your mind, the weaker their grip becomes.
And the ironic part? The moment you stop feeding them your attention, they’ll feel the shift. Suddenly, you’re no longer chasing—you’re living. And that? That’s magnetic.
5. Clean Up Your Space (Literally And Figuratively)
Clutter—whether physical or emotional—can trap stagnant energy. Clean your living space, rearrange furniture, or burn some sage/palo santo if that’s your thing. Symbolically, it helps reset your energy field.
6. Reclaim Your Power Through Action
Sometimes, we leak energy because we feel powerless in a situation. Take back control by making a decision—whether it’s having a direct conversation, walking away, or simply deciding to stop giving them your mental energy. Action closes the loop.
7. Fill Yourself Back Up
Once you’ve pulled your energy back, pour it into things that nourish you. Spend time in nature, move your body, create art, or meditate. The more you fill your own cup, the less likely you are to spill it for others.
A Secret Tip: Walk On Them
Want a little mystical hack to take your power back? If you’ve been pouring too much energy into someone (and getting crumbs in return), try this:
Write their name on a scrap of paper, slip it into your shoe, and literally walk all over it. Every step crushes that one-sided attachment. (Bonus points if you whisper, “I reclaim my energy” while you do it.)
It might sound like witchy—until you try it. There’s something wildly freeing about turning their hold on you into pavement confetti.
Final Thought
Your energy is precious—don’t leave it in the hands of people who don’t value it. Reclaiming your power isn’t about anger or blame; it’s about remembering that you’re the only one who gets to decide where your energy goes.
