Have you ever had that one friend, teacher, or person who you couldn’t escape thinking about? Whether it was because of their unique sense of humor, their amazing personality, or their spectacular hair, there was just something about them that kept bringing you back.
Yeah, that’s crushes for you. Even though it can be extremely annoying how quickly your mind can switch from your friends to your crush, there’s no reason why you can’t put a stop to it. Especially if your crush is causing you distress or impacting your life in some other way, you should probably think about how you’re thinking about them. It’s not worth getting yourself worked up over something that’s not worth your time. Because sure, maybe your crush is really cool and would like to spend time with you – if you two got to know each other -but that’s not always the case.
So, how do you stop thinking about your crush? Here are some helpful tips (which worked for me personally).
Figure out why you’re thinking about them
The first thing you have to do is figure out why you’re thinking about them in the first place. What’s the source of your crush — are you thinking about them because you’re bored? Is it because you feel lonely or you have never been in a serious relationship? Because you want to be friends? Because you miss having a friend?
You need to figure this out so you can stop thinking about them. Because once you know why you’re attracted to them, you can start focusing on what you can do to make that attraction happen.
Take a step back
When you keep thinking about them, you’re probably going to feel some type of way, which is normal. However, if you keep thinking about them and how you feel, you’re probably never going to get over them. So, instead of bottling up your feelings and lashing out at anyone who dares cross your path, take a step back and try to re-frame the way you think about them. If you keep thinking about them as if they’re a real person, you’ll never be able to move on.
Take a break
Yes, you need to take a break. A long break. And here’s why: you’re probably thinking about your crush way too much, which is causing you stress and affecting your mood. If you are obsessed with your crush, your situation may go so far as to make you have trouble concentrating or completely ignore the people around you who care about you, such as friends or family.
You need to get a break from them because thinking about one person for too long can drive you crazy. It can make you obsess over what they think of you, overanalyze every little thing they do, and make you feel like garbage. So, take a break from thinking about them.
Go do something you love. Spend time with your friends. Read a book. Listen to music. Whatever you need to do so your mind doesn’t have time to think about them. And when you come back to your thoughts, you’ll have a new perspective on things because your mind will have been filled with other things.
From personal experience, I can highly recommend traveling alone, because you will find yourself in a situation where you will sometimes be stressed, you’ll learn to rely on yourself, and most of all, you will have little or no time to think about your crush.
Be honest with yourself
How you think about your crush is how they come across to you — this is your energy and how you project to the world. So, when you’re thinking about your crush, you’re essentially thinking about yourself in that person.
So, before you go around analyzing everything about them and feeling bad about yourself, try to remember that you actually like aspects of yourself in them. Like their sense of humor or their personality. You don’t like everything about yourself, so why would you want someone else to like part of you too?
Know when it’s time to move on
There’s no point in wasting your time on someone who doesn’t like you back. If you’ve tried everything and they still won’t take a hint, it’s time to move on. Don’t waste your energy on someone who doesn’t want you around. You can’t change the way they feel, so there’s no point in staying in the friend zone or obsessing about them. It may be hard, but it’s the best thing to do because you’ll feel so much better once you let them go.
Be more active
If you’re constantly thinking about your crush, chances are you’re not doing anything to make yourself happy. Well, actually, you are — you just need to be active in some other way.
Spending time with your friends is always a good way to get your mind off of things. Go out for dinner, hit the comedy club, grab some drinks at the local bar — whatever you need to do so you’re not thinking about your crush.
If you’re feeling particularly stressed, try doing something you enjoy that gets your blood flowing, like yoga or taking a walk. It’ll help clear your mind and help you relax, which will make you feel happier.
There are a million reasons why you might be thinking about your crush a lot — maybe they’re in the same social circle as you and you feel nervous around them, or they work near you and you can’t stop thinking about them. Or maybe you just like thinking about them and there’s nothing more to it than that.
But no matter the reason, it’s important to stop thinking about your crush because it’s making you miserable. So, here are a few options on how to stop thinking about your crush: Spend time with your friends, take a break, be more active, try to spend more time with your friends, and finally, conclude.