If you are reading this, you have probably found yourself in a tumultuous relationship with someone who seems like your perfect mirror, your twin flame. On one hand, the connection feels intensely familiar, magical even. On the other, the relationship brings up all your deepest fears, insecurities, and unhealed wounds.
The twin flame experience can be a wild rollercoaster ride that leaves you feeling blissfully high one moment and crashingly low the next. But before you start questioning your connection with this specific person, you need to read this.
The Bitter Truth
If you can’t stand being around this person you thought was your twin flame, the truth is they aren’t. Your real twin flame is someone you have an unbreakable bond with, even through any challenges.
Sure, you two will argue, and both make mistakes, but there’s no room for hate. This person you thought was your twin isn’t actually. They could be like a soul partner where you feel they’re important, but they don’t truly mirror your soul. They aren’t your twin flame.
They may still be your soulmate, though. I know “soulmate” doesn’t sound as spiritual as “twin flame” but we can’t force ourselves to find our twin. Twin flames usually show up unexpectedly. So if you hate this person, they could be a soul partner or friend. And if you hate them so much you don’t want to see them, it’s best to cut ties. Only after separating will you learn if they were really a soul partner. Sometimes, we need space to realize things.
Your twin flame would never intentionally hurt you. They love you unconditionally no matter what. If they were your real twin, you’d have no reason to hate them. And if they mirror something in you, the first person you’d hate is yourself, not them.
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But He Is My Twin Flame, And Yes, I Hate Him!
As I said before, it’s not possible to hate your twin flame. So even if we hate things about ourselves, like our dark sides, our demons, or past mistakes, there’s still love and hope buried deep down. I know a lot of people say there isn’t, but it’s there. Now, I know some of you are convinced the person you hate is actually your twin flame. If that’s really what you believe, here are a few reasons it could be true:
Twin flames can really hold up a mirror to parts of ourselves we may not be ready for.
When you meet that special person who seems to just get you on such a deep level, it’s almost like they know your soul better than you know yourself. And that can be both a beautiful thing but also really challenging.
They see not only our best qualities but also the things we’ve tried to hide away or avoid dealing with. And let me tell you, having someone reflect back on those “shadow sides” we’ve pushed down can stir up a lot of uncomfortable feelings. At first it may come out as irritation towards them, like why are they always pointing out this stuff about me? But really, what they’re doing is helping us address weaknesses or past hurts we need to work through.
There are often power struggles and ego clashes with your twin.
Relationships with our twin flame can bring up all sorts of intense feelings. On the one hand, there’s this incredible soul connection that makes you feel so understood and validated in a way you’ve never experienced before. But with that profound bond also comes all the baggage from past relationships and deep-seated fears of abandonment and rejection.
It’s natural to feel a bit jealous or insecure when you care so deeply for someone. Your twin flame holds a special place in your heart, so the thought of them giving their attention to others can stir up doubts and worries. “What if he or she likes someone else more than me?” “Will they leave me for someone new?” We’ve all had those intrusive thoughts from time to time.
And it’s not just romantic relationships that may threaten you. Your twin having their own life, friends, hobbies – their independence in general – can trigger feelings of possessiveness. Like they should always prioritize you above anything else. But we all need space, too.
Unhealed wounds from the past get reopened.
Connecting with your twin flame can be so powerful but also really challenging. They have this unique ability to see right through you and touch on parts of yourself that you’ve kept hidden for so long. All the pain, fears, and trust issues you’ve buried deep down inside – your twin flame somehow knows just how to bring those up to the surface, so you have no choice but to face them.
And I know facing those vulnerable parts of ourselves is so uncomfortable. It means peeling back layers we’ve spent years building up. But it’s also the only way we can truly heal. Your twin flame wants to walk that healing journey with you, to shed those layers together, but man, it is difficult. As you and your twin help each other confront painful memories and old wounds, it’s easy to feel frustrated, scared or angry in the process.
There are feelings of jealousy, insecurity, and possessiveness.
Having a profound connection with your twin can be both a blessing and a curse. On the one hand, it’s incredible to have that deep understanding with someone. But it also means you feel what they feel intensely. So when they start to branch out and form other relationships or want more independence, it’s easy to feel threatened.
It’s natural not to want to lose that close bond you share. But you have to be careful because wanting to control them or their relationships is only going to drive them away. When you feel jealous of their freedom, you start to question who they’re with and what they’re doing. You call and text more, try to change their plans. Before you know it, you’re constantly arguing.
Before Saying, “I Hate My Twin Flame,” Ask Yourself:
“Is she/he my true twin flame?” Your twin flame relationship is meant to encourage your spiritual growth. The challenges you face together push you to let go of your ego, embrace vulnerability, and walk the path of unconditional love. If you meet with hatred, that energy will only breed more hatred. You’ve to realize that your true twin flame is still out there waiting for you when you’re ready to meet them with an open heart.