So you’ve been reading too many ‘manifestation’ articles, and now you’re convinced you can just wish your crush into your life with a vision board and positive thinking? Sorry, but no, you can’t manifest a specific person – that’s not how this works. I know it’s an alluring idea, but let’s use some common sense here, people.
Manifestation is about attracting what’s meant for you, not manipulating free will or stalking someone via “the universe.” Yes, you can manifest certain qualities or attributes in a partner, and you can manifest new relationships and connections, but you can’t manifest Jane or John Doe whom you already have a thing for. That will only end in disappointment and hurt feelings.
Take it from me, I had to learn this the tough way. Let’s talk about manifestation and how it really works.
Manifesting A Specific Person Is Unethical And Won’t Work
As much as I’d like to believe in the power of manifestation, we can’t manipulate the universe into giving us exactly what we want, especially when it comes to other people. Manifesting a specific person to be in your life just won’t work and is unethical.
While the law of attraction and vision boards and affirmations may help attract a compatible partner or new friend in general, there’s no way to manifest a particular individual with their unique personality, experiences, and free will. People aren’t objects to be manifested and controlled. We must respect others’ agency and autonomy.
Trying to “manifest” someone already in your life to reciprocate your romantic feelings or behave a certain way towards you is futile and will likely only lead to disappointment and resentment. You can’t force someone to change their behavior or feelings against their will. People are complex beings with their own desires, motivations, and destinies to follow.
Rather than wasting time and energy trying to manifest a specific person, direct that focus inward. Work on being your best self by pursuing your passions, engaging in self-care, nurturing your close relationships, and fostering an attitude of openness, positivity, and abundance.
When you feel confident and fulfilled within yourself, you’ll attract great partners who choose to be with you because of who you are – not because you manipulated the universe into delivering them. And who knows, perhaps you will even attract that “specific Jane or John” without any effort! Things usually happen when you least expect them to happen.
My Advice
Use your common sense here! Focus on manifesting the relationship you want, and the right person for you will come in their own time.
You can manifest meeting someone new with certain qualities or attributes you desire, but you can’t manifest manipulating a specific person into a relationship. For instance, if you want to manifest a man with brown hair, green eyes, muscles, or money, this is absolutely possible. But you can’t manifest that John or Elisabeth living around the corner. By “specific person,” we mean specific qualities, not specific persons.
I don’t mean to be harsh, but I just want to give you the honest truth. You deserve to be in a healthy relationship, valued and respected. Don’t waste time and energy chasing after someone who doesn’t want you when there are better opportunities out there. Your time on this planet is limited. Do something that makes sense and brings results. Do things because you love yourself, not because you want to feel loved someday.
Focus On Yourself, Not Forcing Others
You may have read about people on social media who claim to have manifested a particular partner, soulmate, or spouse by focusing their intention, visualizing what they want, and “putting it out to the universe”, but that’s generally not how it works in reality. And who knows if it’s true at all!
Instead of obsessing over one particular person and trying to manifest them into your reality, focus on using manifestation to attract your ideal partner, whoever that may be. Spend time visualizing the qualities you’re looking for, like kindness, humor, intelligence or shared interests. Picture yourself in a happy, healthy relationship where you feel loved and supported. Raise your vibration by doing things that make you feel confident and joyful.
When you focus on improving yourself and becoming your best self, you’ll naturally start to attract potential partners who are a great match for you. And if that one person you had your sights set on is meant to be in your life, it will happen in a natural way without force or manipulation. Everything in the universe unfolds as it should.
Final Words
Take a step back and look at the bigger picture. Let go of unrealistic fantasies and have faith that you will attract the right relationships for you when you are living authentically. True love will come, but you can’t manifest a specific person. Use your common sense!