Ever felt like you just can’t move on from a past relationship? You’ve broken up, moved out, done all the right things, but something still feels off. There’s a strange emotional or even spiritual attachment that you can’t seem to shake. What you may be experiencing is a spiritual soul tie.
Soul ties form when two people become strongly connected through intimacy, experiences, or trauma. They create an unhealthy bondage that impacts your ability to freely move forward in life and relationships. Breaking the spiritual soul ties is not easy, but it can be broken. Here’s how.
First of All, What Are Spiritual Soul Ties?
Spiritual soul ties are energetic bonds that form between two people through intense experiences together, both positive and negative. They create connections that link your soul to another person’s, for better or worse.
How Spiritual Soul Ties Form
Soul ties form in many ways, but the most common is through emotional, physical (sexual), or spiritual connections to another person. These ties can have a major impact on your well-being.
Emotional Soul Ties
Formed through deep emotional connections or trauma bonding, these ties make you feel like you need that person in your life to feel happy or complete. Sometimes, there may be moments when you experience a sense of dullness or emptiness in their absence. Signs of an emotional soul tie include:
- Constantly thinking about the person and needing their approval
- Difficulty imagining life without them
- Feeling responsible for their emotions or like their happiness depends on you
- Believing that your life would be negatively impacted without them
Physical Soul Ties
Formed through intimate physical relationships, these ties make you crave that person on a sensual level. You may experience:
- Strong sexual attraction that feels impossible to break
- Feeling like your body isn’t your own or belongs to the other person in some way
- Difficulty connecting physically with someone new
Spiritual Soul Ties
Formed through the joining of spirits, these are the deepest level of soul ties. Signs include:
- Feeling spiritually connected to or even as one with the other person
- Sharing spiritual experiences together that create a lasting bond
- Difficulty feeling close to God or your higher power without the other person
- In extreme cases, you may perceive the other person as a deity or your “God”
Signs You May Have A Toxic Soul Tie
You may find yourself constantly thinking about the other person or feeling like you need to stay connected to them in some way. Emotionally, you could feel sad, angry, or anxious when separated from them or like your feelings depend on theirs.
Some common behaviors that could indicate an unhealthy attachment include:
- Checking in on them frequently or needing constant contact.
- Having trouble setting boundaries or saying no.
- Feeling jealous when they spend time with others.
- Difficulty doing things alone or making your own decisions without their input.
- Physical symptoms like stomach aches, insomnia, or restlessness when apart.
- Dropping everything to help them, even at your own expense.
- A desire to share personal details of your life but holding back parts of yourself.
- Feelings of possessiveness, worry, or distrust in the relationship.
- Difficulty focusing on your own life, interests, and responsibilities due to the distraction of the other person.
- A lack of reciprocity where you do more giving than receiving in the relationship.
- Manipulation, control, or emotional blackmail are present.
- The relationship brings more pain, turmoil, and stress than joy, fulfillment, and peace.
If several of these signs resonate with you, it’s likely you have developed an unhealthy attachment or soul tie to someone that is limiting your growth and happiness.
The soul ties can be broken by reclaiming your power and setting boundaries to nurture a healthier connection – or severing ties altogether if needed. The path to freedom starts with awareness and a commitment to your own well-being.
How To Break Free For Good
To untie the knots from unhealthy soul ties, you need to break free from their control and influence over you. Start with the following:
Cut off contact. Stop contacting or responding to the other person whenever possible. Out of sight, out of mind. If they keep texting you, you’d better block them.
Forgive yourself and others. Let go of negative feelings like resentment that strengthen the tie. Forgiveness is for you, not them. Forgive yourself, you deserve it.
Reclaim your power. Regain authority over your thoughts, emotions, and overall life. Refuse to allow others to manipulate you.
Renew your mind. Replace negative thought patterns with positive, empowering thoughts about yourself and your future.
Ask for spiritual help. Pray for guidance and support in breaking free and severing unwanted soul ties. Your faith can provide you with strength during this process.
With time and conscious effort, you can dissolve unhealthy spiritual soul ties and break free to forge new, healthy relationships. The chains that bind you will loosen, and you’ll find inner peace and closure at last.
Take Deliberate Actions
To break free from unwanted spiritual ties, you need to take deliberate action. Simply wishing them away won’t cut it. Below, I have outlined several steps that I have personally implemented and would highly recommend.
Acknowledge The Tie Exists
The first step is admitting you have an unwanted spiritual attachment. Think about the person and your relationship—are there emotional, physical, or spiritual bonds that still feel unresolved or unhealthy? If so, it’s likely you have a soul tie that needs breaking.
Repent For Your Part
Ask God to show you how you participated in the formation of this tie. Repent for whatever sins were involved—lust, manipulation, control, emotional dependency, etc. Ask for forgiveness and cleansing. Own your mistakes and let go of any blame towards the other person.
Forgive The Other Person
Holding onto unforgiveness will only strengthen the tie. Make the choice to forgive them for their wrongdoings and offenses. Speak it out loud and release them from any debts you feel they owe you. Forgiveness is advantageous for you, not for the other person involved.
Renounce The Tie
Verbally renounce the claim this person and their spirits have over you. For example, say, “I now renounce any ungodly soul ties formed between myself and [name]. I break them in the name of Jesus.” Break any agreements or covenants made with this person.
Pray For Release
If you’re religious, spend time in prayer, asking God to break this unwanted soul tie. Visualize the cords that connect you to being severed by the power of the Holy Spirit. Ask God to repair any damage done to your spirit and restore you to wholeness.
Guard Your Heart
Make a commitment to guard your heart going forward. Be very slow to enter into new relationships or emotional bonds. Ask God for discernment and wisdom in your interactions and connections with others. Staying spiritually and emotionally healthy yourself is the best way to avoid unhealthy soul ties in the future.
With time and persistence, you will find true release from unwanted spiritual ties as you commit to this process of breaking free. Walking in freedom and wholeness is worth the effort.
Build Your Spiritual Strength
The best defense is a strong offense. Focus on strengthening your connection with God or your higher power. Spend time each day reading spiritual texts, praying, meditating, or journaling. Surround yourself with like-minded people who share your spiritual values and can support you on your journey.
Set Boundaries
Be very selective about who you share personal details of your life with. Don’t be afraid to say “no” and set clear boundaries with people who do not share your spiritual values or who have hurt you in the past. You do not owe anyone an explanation for the boundaries you establish.
Pay Attention To Warning Signs
Learn to recognize the red flags that signal a spiritual soul tie may be forming. Things like manipulation, control, jealousy, secrecy, or codependence are all warning signs. Address these behaviors early before a soul tie has a chance to form.
Stay Grounded in Reality
Do not get carried away by emotional experiences, mystical encounters, or supernatural phenomena. Compare any spiritual experiences to the truths found in scripture or your moral code. Remaining grounded will help prevent unhealthy soul ties from developing.
I Broke The Bond – And You Can, Too
It may not be easy, but by taking these steps, you can loosen their grip and start walking in freedom and wholeness. You owe it to yourself and your destiny to cut ties with anything that prevents you from becoming who you were created to be.
Don’t waste another day entangled in relationships and attachments that no longer serve you. The journey ahead is bright, and the best is yet to come as you leave behind the knots and snares to embrace all the wonderful things the future has in store for you.