Some relationships just never seem to work out, no matter how much effort both people put in. They’re always arguing over things even when they don’t want to. Well, there may be an explanation hidden in the stars.
According to astrology, the way the planets and stars are lined up for each person can affect how well they get along with others. It’s called their synastry chart, and it shows how compatible two people are with each other based on the stars. In this article, I want to look at 7 difficult synastry aspects that can be seen in the stars.
Saturn Square Venus
A Saturn square Venus connection between two people can cause some issues in the relationship. Venus is about love, attraction and affection. Saturn is about responsibilities, limits and structure.
This aspect shows the way one person shows love could clash with the other person’s more serious nature. Misunderstandings may happen if one person is too much while the other needs more space. Jealousy, being too possessive or feeling insecure could also be a problem.
The two might not agree on things like money, material things, or how to spend fun time together. One person wants stability and structure but the other just wants to have a good time and be comfortable. Working through these differences can be challenging (but not impossible.)
Mars Opposition Pluto
Mars opposition Pluto is one of the synastry aspects often seen in toxic couples. These two planets in opposition reflect a clash of egos, wills, and desires that can lead to control issues, jealousy, and manipulation between the couple. It’s all about power struggles in the relationship dynamic.
Mars represents one’s drive, assertiveness, desires, and ambition, while Pluto symbolizes power, control, and obsession. When Mars and Pluto are in opposition in synastry, each partner may try to assert their will and agenda over the other. Compromise can be difficult and each person may feel the need to dominate, fight, and win arguments.
This aspect can bring out the shadow sides of each person, triggering jealousy, obsession and underhanded tactics to gain the upper hand. Outbursts of anger and aggression are common when one partner feels their autonomy is being threatened. The intensity of this synastry aspect can also breed possessiveness, distrust and unhealthy fixation on each other.
Moon Square Moon
When your Moon sign squares someone else’s Moon sign, it can cause challenges with emotions and intimacy in your relationship. You may have trouble communicating feelings with each other or understanding each other’s moods.
This astrological aspect means you two are very sensitive to each other’s emotions. Small changes in one person’s feelings could upset the other person and vice versa. It’s hard for you to naturally share emotions together or feel in sync emotionally.
Your emotional experiences feel foreign to the other person, and you have to work at understanding each other’s emotional language. What makes one of you feel good emotionally might leave the other person feeling unsatisfied or hurt.
Neptune Square Sun
When one person’s Neptune is at odds with the other’s Sun, it can lead to misunderstandings and a lack of clarity between them. The Sun represents someone’s identity and sense of self, while Neptune is about illusion and blurred lines. This makes it difficult for each person to truly see and understand the other’s core self. They may have unrealistic views that get in the way of seeing what each person is really like deep down.
Communication issues are common with this relationship dynamic. With Neptune involved, it can be hard to directly share your true feelings and needs. The Sun person may feel like their real self is not fully seen or accepted by the Neptune person, who could fantasize about the Sun person in a way that’s not accurate.
Venus Square Uranus
When Venus and Uranus form a square in a couple’s birth charts, it can cause some tension in the relationship. Venus represents love and relationships, while Uranus is associated with being rebellious and unpredictable.
With this challenging aspect, one or both people may act spontaneously in ways that surprise their partner. The relationship could feel unstable and you won’t always know what to expect. The two people probably want different levels of independence too. Some want more space and freedom, while others prefer more closeness. This can lead to arguments about who has more power or control in the relationship.
Mars Conjunct Pluto
Mars conjunct Pluto in synastry screams potential toxicity in a relationship. This aspect indicates a power struggle, competition, and aggression between the two individuals. When Mars and Pluto come together in synastry, it amplifies the negative traits of each planet.
Mars is about drive and action, while Pluto is power and control. So when they’re combined like this, it leads to a real struggle for power in the relationship. Arguments can get really heated and angry.
There’s also a desire by one person to dominate the other. The attraction is more about the intensity and chemistry rather than being a good match. That initial thrill isn’t usually sustainable long-term.
It often causes problems with jealousy, wanting to possess the other person, and always needing to prove you’re right during fights. The relationship feels like one big fight for control. So while it might be exciting at first, Mars-Pluto contacts usually don’t make for a calm, easygoing relationship.
Pluto Hard Aspects
Hard Pluto aspects often show up in toxic relationships, especially the square or opposition between Pluto and the Sun, Venus, Mars, or Moon.
A Pluto-Sun square or opposition can lead to a power struggle where each person tries to control the other. They may become obsessed with manipulating their partner. This brings out the worst in each person through jealousy, manipulation, and hurting each other.
A Pluto-Venus square or opposition means the relationship has obsession, possessiveness, and control issues. Toxic behaviors like jealousy, emotional blackmail, and using affection to manipulate can happen. The partners may rely too much on each other.
A Pluto-Mars square or opposition can create a very explosive mix with frequent arguing and struggles for power, and maybe even abuse. They may act in their most combative ways with each other. The relationship likely has anger, aggression, and problems with who is in charge.
A Pluto-Moon square or opposition can lead to an emotionally draining relationship with control issues, mood swings, and strong emotions. Toxic behaviors from insecurity, jealousy, and being too possessive are common. The partners may have trouble giving each other space and security.
Final Words
If your synastry chart has some of those difficult aspects, it doesn’t automatically mean everything will be terrible. It just means there could be some intensity, for better or worse, in your relationship. But remember – what’s written in the stars is up to you. You get to write your own story!
