We’ve all been there…someone betrays us, takes advantage of our kindness, or downright hurts us, and in that moment of anger, we think: “I hope they get what they deserve!” Maybe we even imagine some form of cosmic justice striking them down. But wishing harm on others is like lighting a fire in your own house and hoping the smoke only bothers your neighbor.
What You Wish for Others, You Wish for Yourself
There’s an old spiritual law that says whatever you focus on is where your energy ends up. When you send out negativity, even if it feels justified, you’re actually filling your own life with that same energy.
Think of it this way: throwing out bad intentions is like tossing a boomerang—it always comes back to you. Maybe not exactly the same way, but it will impact your peace, your health, and your happiness. For example, when you wish harm or even death on someone, karma might respond with its own version of “death” in your life—not literal, but perhaps the loss of something important, like a relationship, a car, or a job.
I learned this lesson the hard way.
My Story: When Anger Backfired
A while back, there was someone I trusted—let’s call them Jay. I helped Jay often, even offering to pay them to do small jobs (like cutting my yard) just to give them some extra cash, even though I could’ve easily done it myself. Then one day, I discovered that Jay had stolen from me. Not just random things, but my treasured collection of old astrological books (some nearly impossible to replace).
I was furious. All my knowledge about karma, positive thinking, and forgiveness went right out the window. I wanted Jay to suffer. I wanted him to feel the same betrayal, the same loss. Whenever I thought about him, I literally saw black—that’s how intense my anger was. I was beside myself.
And then… I started feeling unwell.
Not immediately, but gradually. My energy dropped. My mood turned sour. I kept getting sick. First, a nasty flu, then weird eye and ear issues, then a deep cut on my hand out of nowhere. Meanwhile, Jay did face consequences—he got caught stealing from others, and his life went downhill fast.
But by the time that happened, I realized something powerful:
My anger didn’t punish them—it only punished me.
Karma Doesn’t Need Your Help
The universe has its own way of setting things right. When someone does wrong, they’ll face their own consequences—but not because you wished for it. In fact, the more you obsess over their actions, the more you keep yourself tied to that negativity.
And, well, carrying that around every day is just exhausting.
Instead, try this:
- Feel the anger. (It’s human.)
- But don’t live in it.
- Let go—not for them, but for you.
- Trust that life handles justice better than you ever could.
Sometimes, karma works quickly. Sometimes it takes months, or even years, but it always finds its way back. Always.
And that’s where the phrase karma do unto others rings true. The energy you give, whether it’s love or spite, is the energy that echoes back. So, just be careful about the energy you’re sending out into the world.
Wish Good Anyway—Because You Deserve Peace
The best revenge? Simply living well.
Sending love, or at the very least, creating healthy emotional distance from someone who hurt you isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s a powerful choice to protect your own energy and refuse to let their actions control your life. On the flip side, wishing harm or death on someone only ends up hurting you, never them.
So next time someone wrongs you, fight the urge to wish them ill. Instead, wish yourself peace. Give yourself the space to heal and keep moving forward. The energy you put out comes right back to you—and you deserve way more than to be stuck in bitterness.
