Sometimes you pick up on certain signals from someone, their behavior, their energy, their way of relating to you, and you start wondering about their sexuality. You don’t want to assume, and you definitely don’t want to ask outright if the timing feels off. Tarot can offer insight into what’s going on beneath the surface, especially when you’re trying to understand someone’s romantic or emotional direction.
Tarot doesn’t label people, but it can highlight themes of attraction, confusion, self-discovery, secrecy, and openness. Some cards lean toward same-sex attraction, questioning identity, or stepping outside traditional relationship paths. If you’re asking specifically about whether a man may be attracted to men, certain cards can be incredibly revealing.
Below are the cards that appear most often in readings focused on sexual orientation or unspoken romantic interest.
Major Arcana Cards
The Lovers
The Lovers can indicate same-sex attraction when the question is directly about sexuality. It highlights powerful chemistry and emotional resonance. The card isn’t gendered. It simply shows connection, so when it appears in this context, it can suggest he’s emotionally or physically drawn to someone of the same gender.
The Hierophant (Reversed)
The Hierophant upright is tradition. Reversed, it’s stepping outside tradition. This often shows a man who isn’t aligned with conventional relationship expectations and may explore or prefer same-sex connections. It can also show someone challenging old beliefs around identity or attraction.
The Emperor
The Emperor is self-assurance. When it answers a sexuality question, it may show a man embracing who he is with confidence. It suggests strength around identity, including a man who has accepted or is accepting same-sex attraction.
The Moon
The Moon is confusion, secrecy, and inner conflict. In sexuality readings, it often points to someone who is questioning things, not ready to label themselves, or carrying fears around coming out. It’s the “I feel something, but I’m not ready to name it yet” card.
The Wheel of Fortune (Reversed)
This can indicate past difficulties or bad timing around relationships and identity. Sometimes it shows someone who had negative experiences trying to express their sexuality, which made them hesitant. It doesn’t mean “he’s gay,” but it does suggest unfinished emotional history related to attraction.
Minor Arcana Cards
Two of Cups
This is one of the clearest same-sex attraction indicators in tarot when the reading is specifically about sexuality. It shows emotional bonding, mutual recognition, and intimacy between equals. When you’re asking about a man and this card appears, it often suggests interest in another man.
Three of Cups
Community, celebration, and openness. In sexuality readings, Three of Cups can suggest someone discovering comfort in their identity, including embracing same-sex attraction. It’s a card of social acceptance and feeling safe enough to be authentic.
The Sun
The Sun is joyful self-expression. If you’re asking about sexuality, this card can mean he or she feels at ease exploring or acknowledging attraction to men. It’s confidence without shame, attraction without hiding.
Additional Insights
Many readers notice patterns that show up repeatedly when analyzing sexuality questions:
Feminine-coded Cards
Cards like The Empress, The High Priestess, The Moon, or Queen-heavy spreads may point toward a man with softer, more intuitive energy, sometimes associated with same-sex attraction, especially if the question specifically asks about it. It’s not a guarantee, but it adds context.
Cards With the Number Two
Twos represent mirroring, similarity, pairing with someone “like yourself.”
When asking about orientation, multiple twos (Two of Cups, Two of Swords, Two of Pentacles) can hint at attraction toward the same gender.
A Few Thoughts Before Jumping to Conclusions
Tarot can reveal emotional complexity, hidden desires, confusion, or clarity, but it can NOT diagnose sexuality with 100 percent certainty. A man might simply be sensitive, introspective, or expressive in ways that don’t match stereotypes.
What tarot can do is show:
- whether they’re questioning themselves
- whether they feel drawn to someone of the same gender
- whether they’re hiding something about their identity
- whether they’re comfortable being honest
- whether their attraction toward someone of the same gender is emotional, physical, or both
I’ve done readings where the cards clearly reflected someone struggling with coming out, and readings where the “signals” meant something completely different.
Tarot gives perspective, not labels. If you’re genuinely unsure about someone’s sexuality, tarot can help you understand the emotional landscape he’s navigating. But the most important part always comes through intuition, timing, and communication.
